Time: 23:54
Again, I'm here purely because I'm procrastinating. I'm due to start on my FYP Chapter 4...more than a week ago, and it's still in its glorious existence only in my head. I need a huge proverbial kick in my ass so that I start doing something very soon.
The journey is about to end. Who'd know? I still remember so clearly that very first day in university. I guess you could say if I could change things, I'd go back to that morning in Chinese class, and whisper to the naive and arrogant girl, to warn her of 3 rocky years ahead full of tears, joy, loss, adventure, lessons, loneliness... and that it will end unexpectedly. That maybe she'd wanna do a 180 and run the hell out of that place. That all the mistakes are not just her own, but that her hands will be dirtied.
I guess there's no shame in confessing I want a do-over. Some other place, some other time. Did university break my spirit? I don't know. I don't. What I know is this. It changed me, polluted the way I see the world. Those changes are big and small. Abstaining from meat, losing weight, finding and losing love, learning how to keep my mouth shut, learning about trust and betrayal, growing up...yeah. Maybe the changes are for the better, that a dose of reality and cynicism was what I needed. I haven't found what I wanted out of it, and I'm still searching. Perhaps life wants me to digress here to learn a lesson. I'm trying to make the best of it. My writing suffered, my passion waned. My next big journey in life will be to reunite with my hopes, ambition and passion once again. That much I promise myself.
And I guess this is where I'll break down and confess to all who've asked me if I'm lonely. I've always told them I'm alone, but rarely lonely, because I'm insulated by the love and support from those who cared. But these past days, the loneliness I've banished is creeping in again, enveloping me with its cold, dark embrace. And I succumbed. I want nothing more than to break down and crumble, but I can't let myself. I need to be strong in my convictions, in my principles and in my own self, because that's all that's left. As much as I'd like to, I feel it's no longer fair to burden others with it. I despair they will be bored and frustrated with me and my constant neediness. I fear I'm getting caught up in myself, my feelings, my emotions and my stubbornness that I neglect others.
I know in the bigger scheme of things whatever it is I'm going through isn't all that big a deal, but again, it is because I'm going through this right now that makes it especially hard to keep my chin up. All the advice and empathy I received comfort me, and I will always be grateful to those who did so for me. But I know I stand alone in this.
I do not know who stalks me (and maybe no one does, and it's all in my head), but as I try not to use another's words as a weapon against them personally, I expect, because of the law of karma, that mine will not be used against me. We all are vulnerable, and I'd like to know I can let myself be once again, without fear. If its true I've been a lousy person and friend, and that I really don't deserve anymore attention, then leave me be. I've made my amends and compromises, and had what I deserved returned to me multi folds and enough is enough. I've reached my breaking point and forgiveness is no longer one-sided now.
I'm sticking to my guns.
I'm also stealing a quote from Amelia (and Chris)'s blog:
"Remember to be gentle with yourself and others. We are all children of chance and none can say why some fields will blossom while others lay brown beneath the August sun. Care for those around you. Look past your differences. Their dreams are no less than yours, their choices no more easily made. And give, give in any way you can, of whatever you possess. To give is to love. To withhold is to wither. Care less for your harvest than for how it is shared and your life will have meaning and your heart will have peace." - Kent Nerburn
As I eat my humble pie, I try to mend my prideful ways and learn to treat others better, and to be less harsh on myself and others. But it will take all my faith and strength, but I'm trying, right?
3 comments:
wow. it's amazing how this quote has travelled!
well-worn shoes indeed.
Btw, hope you don't mind me linking your blog on my page.
Yes yes, it's a good qoute. And I'm sure it served as a very good reminder to all those who've heard it's wisdom. Maybe we should mass distribute it. :P
And my darling friend, may I too share with you that I too sometimes experience bouts of lonliness from time to time. It's a thing that comes and goes and I can assure you, that it's a very natural emotion felt by all who are not yet contented with life. And how are we supposed to be when we're only 22, when we know there are greater things installed for us, better things to do than being stuck at home?
And of course, with what you've been through, it's only natural to falter. But always remember that in your lonliness that you are not alone. Telling you this would probably be telling you something you know by heart but remember that no matter what, you'll always have us. And nothing you can do, no matter how "lousy" you claim to be as a friend can change that. I think this is something we've establish a long time ago.
Also remember the fact that no one is perfect. We're ALL flawed. True friendship isn't about benefiting from one another and picking on each other's flaw. It's about loving, it's about caring and it's about a love that is unconditional.
You know that time when you're so darn angry and upset with me and you have no reason to love me but you just do. That's because you're my best friend. x)
Sometimes the path we chose don't live to our expectations of how it'd be. For myself, most people would say I could've walked a "higher" typical part. Though I'd like to think that there are reasons and silver linings to how things turned out.
Form 6 was bad, but it helped me build inner strength and maturity. I'm guessing your uni days did too, in a way. From love-hate relationships with friends, to crazy uni work to broken heart, it probably helped shaped and carved a stronger, wiser you than you might not have been otherwise.
And we really need to meet up soon, preferably before you fly off!!
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